Hello! And welcome to a new segment here on Disney Wedding Inspiration called:
I speak with a lot of Disney brides and grooms who have questions about their wedding or need advice about an issue they are having. Some questions are unique to Disney weddings, and some questions involve the same problems that all engaged couples encounter!
This question is one I see come up over, and over, and over, so I thought it would be a great one to address in this first installment of Ask a Disney Bride. I encourage my readers to also leave their own thoughts in the comments. Let’s help this bride out!
Dear DWI,
We have a really strict budget and are trying to keep our guest count as close to the 60 person minimum as possible. We worked really hard to narrow down our guest list and also invite the people we really want there, which means we cannot extend a “plus one” to any of our single guests. Well, my cousin sent me an email a few days ago saying she was so excited to attend our wedding, and she was bringing her boyfriend! We didn’t offer her a “plus one” on her invitation, but also, neither myself nor my fiance have ever met this guy! We are worried that if we tell her that her boyfriend is not invited, she may not come at all! How do we fix this mess?!?
Signed, Irritated in Irvine
Dear Irritated,
First of all, I don’t blame you for being irritated. Your cousin has put you in quite the pickle! The bottom line here is that if you didn’t put “and guest” on your cousin’s invitation, she had no right to invite a date to come along. It’s possible she simply wasn’t paying attention to the way the envelope was addressed and it was a simple mistake. I would call your cousin (I’m a firm believer that bad news shouldn’t come via email or text message) and let her know you have a strict guest count. Blame it on the venue, if you must! If she is petty enough to skip your wedding because her beau wasn’t allowed to attend, then it’s probably better off she’s not around and sulking in all your group photos.
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