As a wedding blogger, I am Facebook and Twitter friends with a lot of brides and some behavior I see really concerns me. So I think it’s time for a friendly reminder:
Ladies, the world does not revolve around your wedding. Sorry.
We have all seen it happen to the smartest of women. They get a ring on their left hand and all of a sudden a switch in their brain flips and they become psycho-bride. It is almost understandable – this is a major event being planned, and you (generally) only get one chance to get it all “right.” This is super stressful. I know; I just planned a wedding and I’m guilty of some of this behavior! So brides-to-be, here are some universal truths for you to remember as you tackle the wonderful world of wedding planning.
– Your fiance probably doesn’t care about wedding things as much as you do. So give him a break once in a while and talk about something other than the wedding. Ask him how his day went, watch a movie together, cook dinner together, or something else that doesn’t involve wedding planning in the least.
– Your Maid of Honor has a life outside of your wedding. She might even have her own husband and family to take care of and, sorry, they are a priority over your wedding. You cannot expect any of your ‘maids to drop everything and tend to you on a moment’s notice. So do them a favor – tell them what’s expected of them, physically and financially, when you pop the “will you be my bridesmaid” question. And then don’t stray from that list. Your wedding is not worth losing a life-long friend.
– You are not your wedding planner/photographer/DJ/fill-in-the-vendor’s only client. They probably aren’t going to respond to your email in two hours, or even two days. This is especially true if your wedding is eight months away. They are probably tending to weddings that are taking place that week. So don’t freak out and send a dozen emails asking them to respond. If it’s truly and emergency (and not everything is), then call and calmly leave a message explaining why you need to speak with them ASAP. Don’t get huffy and puffy and make demands – that is a sure fire way to find yourself on the bottom of your vendor’s call-back list.
– Your parents are super excited about your wedding, too. No, it’s not their wedding but they have probably been looking forward to this day since before you were born. So give them a break when they share their opinions. Listen intently and take their wants into consideration. If they are interested, include them and make them feel like they are part of the decision-making process. Do you really want to start off married life feuding with your in-laws? The wedding lasts one day but most likely you’ll be spending decades to come with your new family. Don’t make it more uncomfortable than it needs to be.
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